Fatokun Damilola Ifeoluwa – Nigeria

  • December 13, 2020 at 4:18 pm #2998
    Daniel Ochieng

    1a). Male stereotypes I can identify within my immediate community.
    Foremost, people create the wrong impression about the male child.
    The male child is being labeled a bully, troublesome, egoistic, stubborn and playful, these traits that starts coming to play, when they’re still young are often overlooked, causing more harm than good.
    Also, a bit is believed a male child should repress his emotions, which is a bad thing to do, as we’re all emotional,and have to express emotions as much as we want to..
    A male child is expected be able to face every life challenge, mostly without asking for help.
    Also, it is believed that once you’re a male child,all responsibilities fall on you. You already have the sole responsibility of ruling.
    But then,these stereotypes are very wrong. A male child should be cared for too.

    I believe these are stereotypes because I’ve related with quite a number of males and I discovered that the male child has emotions too.
    b. These stereotypes can be broken through proper enlightenment.
    Parents/guardians should have a mental shift and a new orientation concerning the male child
    There has been a lot of advocacy for the girl child,it’s high time the male child is been advocated for.
    Parents should be trained not to inflict fear in the heart of their sons, listen to them, let them say what’s bothering them ,let them cry and let out their emotions.
    The male child should be given a listening hear,a shoulder to cry upon and opportunity to express himself.
    Parental counselling should be done before or after marriage.

    c. We can change the point of view of the older generations by enlightening them about the harm these stereotypes can cause on the child’s mental health.
    Such a child that has been brought up with that stereotype won’t perform excellently well and might suffer low self-esteem.
    The older generation should be aware of the harm these stereotypes cause.

    Assignment 2
    2a) Yes, toxic masculinity is still evident in some areas in this present age.
    A very rampant one is the male gender being tagged fragile when they show their emotions or break down in tears, this has caused more harm than good, as not expressing one’s emotions can lead to depression, and even take a toll on relationship with family and friends.
    Another trait is not cautioning the male gender when they start showing signs of bulliness, violence, and aggression.
    The society has also painted being masculine as being working without complaining, Even when it’s evident that they’re stressed. Substance abuse Is also a thing associated with masculinity.
    The worse one is the act of encouraging domestic violence, and sexual assault, while painting it as taking charge, which is very toxic.
    2b) Toxic masculinity can be unlearnt.
    Starting by respecting yourself and others, which enhances a person to act more like human, and be unable to bring one’s self to hurt the other fellow.
    Men should learn to hear other people’s view, without feeling offended, and put their pride or ego aside.
    Accept that they’re humans, and they have emotions which should be expressed, moreso, every human needs help,at a point or the other, and no one can do it all alone.
    Should know there’s nothing like the male gender being superior than the female gender, do away with physical oppression, and violent behaviors.

    2c) As a kectil colleague, i can change the narrative of toxic masculinity to healthy masculine by educating people on the harm the toxic masculinity is doing, not to only the male gender, but also to the society as a whole.
    As when the outcomes of this toxic masculinity starts getting out, it tends to be something we can’t control.
    Apart from the old people, educating the male gender and female gender is paramount too.
    Assignment 3
    3a) Men tend to be explorative, seeking to find what, why and how, even if it won’t yield a result.
    They are more of risk takers, and are mostly anxious to move on to the next stage, which sometimes really needed. For example, having a man on a team , who’s willing to take risks, will unconsciously rub off on the women and others in that team generally, and it would also help them in further instances.
    Likewise,men are quick to generate ideas, alternatives, or possibilities that may be useful in communicating with others and proffering solution to problems.
    By so doing, men can brainstorm on problems women face, and find ideas on how to make life easy for women, maybe organizing sessions majorly to address the issues
    Men tend to be competitive, which is a good thing, as it spurs the opposition to work harder, but then, they most likely engage In unhealthy competition, when their opposition is a woman, which is not fair enough.
    Men also show more leadership traits, and find themselves in more leadership and more demanding positions , and they should make women working under them enjoy doing so.
    As we all know, a happy woman does greater benefits to her family, which also radiates to the community.

    3c) First of, the women liberation movement changed how he society perceive women,as weaker vessels.
    To men, it showed to them women have much more advantages to the world at large other than babysitting and being relegated as mere housewives.
    It made it evident that the girl child if given the opportunity is well as beneficial to everyone one as the boy child.
    Women have taken meaningful roles, even I’m politics, and have delivered so well.
    For some men, this movement altered their ego, as women now challenge them.
    Also, looking at it, it has lessened the responsibilities of the man, in providing for the family.
    As it’s known that ” two heads are better than one”.

    3e) Men and women can work together to develop the community they live together in by embracing one another’s strengths, virtues,and individual differences. Hold open discussions, communicate respectfully and clearly and taking discussions with respecting others opinions.

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